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All About Furry Fandom: Where the Wild Twinks Are Interview

I’ve gotten a lot of questions since we’ve started advertising this movie, mostly about what furries are and what will make those hot “Where the Wild Twinks Are” xxx parody sex scenes different from other Boycrush scenes. The answer to that last one is “not much” except for some adorable costumes and some tails to “lift.” To answer the rest of your questions regarding what a furry is, Andy Kay sat down with Jason Valencia (our resident furry model) and talked all about the furry community and the #WtWTA movie. Check it out and ask your own questions (if any) below! – @boycrushstudios

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“Let’s Do Something Different” – The World’s Largest Ex-Gay Ministry & Conversion Therapy Advocates Close their Doors

The following is an interview by Blogger Jeff Chu with Alan Chambers, the leader of Exodus International. I don’t think think incident should be considered anything less than the most important win in the battle for gay acceptance in ten years. Maybe ten years is an overstatement, but I haven’t felt a sense of pride and reassurance anywhere near what I felt after reading this man’s words. His stout resolution that there is a God but that nothing their organization did to convert gays to straights worked and that being gay is absolutely not a choice. They lost. They’re off to start something new, something not even related to gay people.

Now, I’m a pretty helpless athiest and blanked when he mentioned Jesus. Even if you’re like me, its still worth the read. Check it out below:

‘Let’s Do Something Different’: The End of the World’s Leading ‘Ex-Gay’ Ministry
JUN 20, 2013

“We’re sorry.”

The beginning of the end came with those two words, in a press release on Wednesday from Alan Chambers, the longtime leader of the world’s most prominent “ex-gay” ministry. Since the 1970s, Exodus, in line with its conservative reading of the Bible, had taught that homosexuality was unholy and that through counseling and prayer, you could change your sexual orientation. But critics said that Exodus’s core message–one of its longtime taglines was “change is possible”–and its embrace of “conversion” therapy did enormous emotional, spiritual and psychological damage, perpetuated outdated stereotypes and wholly wrong theories about the origins of homosexuality, and even led to countless suicides.

A few hours later, on the first night of the organization’s 38th annual conference, Chambers announced that Exodus would do just that: shut down and start something new. Shortly after he left the stage, he called me and we talked for 45 minutes about his journey to this place, making amends, and where he goes from here.

Where did the idea to close come from?

From the moment of my hiring, I’ve said that success for me would look like Exodus going out of business because the church was doing its job, whether that’s helping people with a story like mine or people with a story like yours. I never thought in my lifetime that I would see this, and yet I did. About 18 months ago, we revisited this. There were four options we saw. One was to stay the same, which wasn’t really an option. The second was to rebrand, which became not an option. The third was to modify Exodus, which is what we tried to do, and I think we did some good. The fourth was to shut down Exodus. For many, many months now, that’s something I knew would happen. In my heart and mind, I’ve been clearly hearing God say it’s time for this to be done. The good that could have been done is done.


When you say that, people are going hear that you think Exodus was successful, that you think it was a ministry that did good.

For some people, it was. Exodus saved my life. I was vulnerable and I had no other place to go. I didn’t know what the gay community was or how to find it. Exodus was a place that rescued me. It was a safe haven for this little kid of faith who needed an option. While there is undeniable trauma that has happened for some, the fact of the matter is, for others it has not been traumatic. That will always be part of the story.

Do you get why so many people are still so angry at Exodus?

Yes. It’s been traumatic for many people. It’s been horrific. And it’s not just Exodus. It’s the church. It’s a religious system that has taught us how to be contrary to the heart of Christ, to treat people who are sinners in ways that God himself wouldn’t ever treat them. He sent Jesus. He loves us. He wants amazing things for us, and he wouldn’t treat us in the ways that religion has taught us to treat people. I hear and understand why people are hurting and why they are in pain.

What parts of Exodus’s teaching do you renounce?

What I renounce: the whole gay-to-straight process. That the goal is changing your sexual orientation, which we realized isn’t something that happens. That that’s what makes you acceptable to God. And that gay people couldn’t ever be acceptable to God.

So what changed for you that got you to this place?

Realizing that the deepest part of the Exodus narrative is really a religious church narrative has been the biggest change. We are a church that has mostly been about waging war and battle. But I believe God has called us to be a people of peace. I’ve realized he can love a gay person or a lesbian person the same as anyone. For me as a Christian, those aren’t boundaries or barriers, and I don’t believe they are barriers for God. We felt it was absolutely necessary to close the ministry of Exodus and do what people who have been hurt are asking us to do: make amends in a way that makes a difference.

What do you say to people who have been through Exodus, who are still angry, who say that your apologies will never be enough?

All I can do is to say I’m sorry and I’m trying to do better. I realize there will be people who won’t forgive. I hope in time there will be resolution for people who don’t feel resolution today. I pray that people will find peace. I realize there have been people who have been hurt on their journey, and all I can say is I’m sorry and pledge to do differently.

Was there a single epiphany for you?

We’d all like those lightning-bolt experiences, but I don’t know that I had one. As I’ve pursued my relationship with Christ and understood through my own story who God is in my life and how he loves and accepts me, it’s just been a gradual process. Little by little something would change, or a word would change, or a belief or a thought. It’s been over the last three years or so, since I taped my first interview with Lisa Ling. There was a controversy when I said gay people can go to heaven.


You’ve done tons of interviews over the years. What was it about that one?

I don’t know that she asked something I hadn’t been asked before or that I answered it in a way I hadn’t. I’ve been saying controversial things here and there, but people tuned in with different ears. It became a catalyst. Once the horse was out of the gate, it wouldn’t stop and I realized I didn’t want it to stop.

How about on the legal level? Are you in favor of gay marriage?

I realize there will be people who will never cut me any slack because I haven’t completely changed my position. I don’t really know what to think, honestly, when it comes to gay marriage. But I also don’t think anybody needs me to have a position. People have a right to live their lives as they see fit. If a friend or family member who is gay or lesbian invites me to be a part of their special day, I’m going to go and be a part of that because I love them. It doesn’t matter if I endorse or condone something–that’s not my right. I have plenty of friends who are gay and lesbian, loved ones in my family who are gay and lesbian. Their family will be my family, their friends will be my friends, and that’s all that matters.

Let’s talk about next steps.

In the next short period, I envision Exodus closing. Then we will begin the process of starting something brand-new that won’t have anything to do with the issue of ex-gay. That organization will likely be one that promotes a dialogue, a new relationship between people who have previously not had relationship with one another. We want Christians to get together and have conversations across the great divide. It’s not just the world and the church that are sometimes at odds; it’s people within the church. I want a thoughtful, intelligent, Christ-centered, peaceful conversation that endears people toward the church and doesn’t cause them to run away from the church. I know faithful gay and lesbian people who have amazing things to contribute. It’s time for us to sit down together and have conversations for the common good, beyond what’s divided us prior to this.

Given where you’re coming from, there will be skeptics. They might say: Since you’re still a theological conservative, how do we know it’s not going to be more of the same–or a bait and switch? Who are you to help lead this conversation?

My encouragement would be to move on, and quickly.
I’m someone who has risked everything. I don’t know many people who risk their livelihood in the way that I’ve risked it. I have no guarantee we’re going to have any income come next week, honestly. We’ve risked our reputation. We’ve risked everything for this thing we believe in. Who am I? I am someone who believes so much that I’m willing to put all of those things on the back burner to be in relationship with people, to not talk about things in the way we’ve talked about them before, to love people in a way that goes far beyond anything we’ve ever done before. Our desire is for people who have been like us and are like us to do something good rather than fight wars, and to endear people on the other side to come to the table, in the hopes that all of us together can reach a group of people who have been caught in the battle and lost in the war. We’re willing to give up everything so that those people aren’t wounded anymore.

Name some people whom you’d like to engage in conversation.

There are a lot. Rachel Held Evans, who I think has done a fabulous job of loving gay people. Any number of pastors and leaders, whether they’re on one side of the discussion or another. Gay and lesbian leaders would be amazing to sit down at the table with. Bishop Gene Robinson and others who are out to promote the common good. There are dozens of people I could think of if my brain weren’t fried at this moment.

I’ve heard that the organization might be called

That’s not the name. It’s just the website. That’s one of our goals: to reduce fear. There’s a lot of fear that motivates Christians to do what they do. A lot of people have been subjected to what they’ve been subjected to because of Christians’ fear. We’ve wielded power in a way that’s ungodly. We don’t want to have conversations based on fear or react based on fear.


So if that’s not the name, what are you going to call the ministry?

Something non-religious, non-churchy, non-typical.To be honest, I’m not sure we’re starting a ministry. We’re starting an organization. We’re Christians starting an organization. We’ll see how that plays out.

What’s the distinction?

I’m not saying there won’t be ministry involved, but we became an institution. We don’t want to do that again. We want to do something relevant for now, something that may not be around in five or 10 years. Who knows? It may not be around in five months. What we want to do is really speak into the current climate, culture and issues of our time, not as people who are authorities but as people who have as much to learn as anybody else.

What do you say to Christians who now find themselves in a more conservative place than you? What message do you have for those who hold that sexual orientation is changeable, that it’s a choice?

That type of mentality is, in my opinion, indicative of us wanting to control something. Why does it matter what someone’s sexual orientation is or isn’t? That isn’t the good news of the Gospel. So my encouragement would be to move on, and quickly.

As you try to move on, I imagine you’ll have to deal with stories and stereotypes–of Exodus and of you.

There are certainly untruths that have been told on both sides, about me and about Exodus. There’s good and there’s bad. But it’s time now to focus on something new and to do something that’s relevant for the time that we’re living in. When it comes to this, my encouragement would be the same as it was for the conservative side: Let’s do something different. It’s a new time.


A Brief History of Porn

by Andy Kay
June 19, 2013

From ancient, painted Chinese pottery to Roman frescoes, mankind has been all about porn since they learned how to draw. The following video is probably not how porn started, but there have been several examples of ancient erotic art (perhaps the most ancient) from England to Germany in Paleolithic caves. [1]


An ivory statuette of a well-endowed woman discovered in Germany suggests that humanity’s earliest art might have been of the erotic variety. Digging in a cave near Stuttgart last fall, an archeologist found the oldest figurine/sculpture of a naked woman. At about 35,000 years old, it makes one of the oldest sculptures ever discovered, not to mention the oldest pornographic item. The find came almost 100 years after the 1908 discovery in Austria of another figurine (of the goddess Venus) that was created almost 25,000 years ago. The Venus sculpture was made of stone and is more obviously a pornographic item as it has overly large breasts and a clearly carved vulva. [4]

The birthplace of modern pornography started in Rome, as printing became possible in the 1500s. In 1524, Marcantonio Raimondi printed sixteen sexually explicit engravings, created by artist Giulio Romano, called “I Modi.” The engravings were simply a man and a woman fucking in a variety of positions. Although today, no one would look twice, Pope Clement VIII jailed Raimondi in prison, where he remained for about a year. The founder of modern pornography negotiated his release. [2]

That founder of modern pornography was Pietro Aretino. He was bisexual, proclaimed himself a sodomite and apart from visual art, created erotic poetry and stories. He dodged the Papacy and the law almost his entire life, due to his less than wholesome words and in the end, he is said to have died of suffocation from “laughing too much.” [3]


300 years later, the invention of film made possible the first short movies. It took less than ten years after its invention for the first pornographic film to emerge. A French film titled Le Coucher De La Marie (1896) was the first pornographic film; it showed a couple having sex and the woman stripteasing. These films were a major leap forward for modern pornography; audiences could finally watch real people engaging in real sex acts as if they were there with them.

After pornographic films became common across the United States, the most important porn milestones crossed to get to where we are today were made over the space of 100 years.

1930, The New Tariff Act authorizes the courts to determine obscenity and removes this authority from the U.S. Post Office and U.S. customs department.

1952, Joseph Burstyn, Inc v Wilson; the U.S. Supreme Court decides that cinema is protected by the First and Fourteenth Amendments.

1957, Roth v United States, the U.S. Supreme Court repudiated the Hicklin Test and ruled that material was obscene when it would be considered objectionable by an average person using community standards and, where the media has only prurient not artistic merit.

A guided tour through the not-so-sacred halls of adult entertainment, following the rise and rise of an industry that keeps on giving.

1969, Stanley v Georgia, the U.S. Supreme Court overturns the conviction of a man accused of possessing pornographic films for his own private use.

1973, Miller v California, the U.S. Supreme Court constructed a test to determine whether a work was obscene. It had three parts: (1) whether the average person, applying contemporary community standards would judge that the work appealed primarily to prurient interests, (2) whether the work depicts or describes, in a patently offensive way, sexual conduct specifically defined by the applicable state law, and (3) whether the work lacks serious literary, artistic, political, or scientific value. Using the ‘Miller Test’, a work is deemed obscene only if all three conditions are satisfied.

1982, New York v Ferber, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that the First Amendment did not prohibit states from banning the sale of material that depicts children engaging in sexual activity.[2]

Porn has been on our minds since we climbed down from the trees and there’s no doubt (made apparent by its eventual wins in the court system) that it’s here to stay. Take a look at this fun video above that fills in the spaces I left, if you want to learn more.


[1] – Chris Rodley, Dev Varma, Kate Williams III (Directors) Marilyn Milgrom, Grant Romer, Rolf Borowczak, Bob Guccione, Dean Kuipers (Cast) (2006-03-07). Pornography: The Secret History of Civilization (DVD). Port Washington, NY: Koch Vision. ISBN 1-4172-2885-7. Retrieved 2006-10-21.

[3] – Waterfield, Gordon, ed. (1966). First Footsteps in East Africa. New York: Praeger Publishers. p. 59 footnote.

How Your Masturbation Habits Support America’s Infrastructure and You (Social and Economic Benefits of Porn and the Adult Industry)

by Andy Kay
June 10, 2013

If you read any news blog (liberal or conservative), you’ve probably seen several posts about porn’s detrimental effect on relationships, marriages, and your mind. I agree on some level, too much of anything can’t be good (however, the comments about porn hurting relationships due to the “attractiveness” of the models, I think is just built on the complainants insecurities about their own bodies). Anyway, This post isn’t about that. This post is for those of you who’ve wondered what good things come out of purchasing and watching porn.

Since I already delved into the social aspect a little bit, lets start with that. Here’s the question, one that will help us better understand how porn can be beneficial: Why do we like watching porn?


Although many groups disagree on the meaning on most of their findings on the subject, all of them agree on the following: Porn has an effect on the brain similar to someone giving you a handy j. It’s also similar to doing cocaine and other drugs that make you experience a “high.” The reason for this is dopamine. Dopamine is essential to the brain when experiencing pleasure, learning, punishment and reward, and even movement. The same process is at work in the brain when watching porn. As images are viewed arousal occurs. That is, dopamine is beginning to be released in the brain. As with certain drugs, dopamine can be released even in the anticipation of watching porn, the same as the anticipation one might feel before having sex.

That being said, no one thinks about that sort of stuff before dropping their pants and heading to their favorite website. Everyone has their specific tastes when it comes to porn and although some might let it affect their personal relationships, I think most of us just consider it a small part of life. Now that the why is answered, lets talk about what porn can do to aid your personal sexual experiences and/or your relationship.


That answers to that question are pretty logical. Watching porn can give you ideas you wouldn’t have thought of on your own and can lead to a more enjoyable sexual experience. First, you could learn and imitate new positions you see in porn videos which can lead to new sensations and a fun sexual experience with your partner. Not just positions, but techniques as well. Also, as those of us who used this scheme to get into straight boys pants in junior high school, the influence of porn movies can help enable both parties become active.


Next, porn can stimulate arousal in partners who have trouble getting into it. If you’re strong in your relationship and your self-esteem, this option can be a healthy way to light the spark, so to speak. Lastly, watching porn can lead to a more intense orgasm and ejaculation.

Porn isn’t necessary the “standard” before creating the beast with two backs. Like I said before, too much of a good thing isn’t healthy. However, the methods we discussed in this section can definitely be a benefit as well to those looking to spice things up and increase the pleasure they experience during sexual intercourse and masturbation. Don’t be afraid to try new things, you’ll never know before you try!


The US Government and Justice System have shown a long history of protecting porn and parody laws. Its little wonder why, porn generates about $1 billion a year in the US alone. That means the industry makes more than the revenues of the top technology companies combined (Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, Netflix and EarthLink.[1]) Also, since 12% of the Internet has at least some pornographic content on it, its safe to say that there’s a pretty hefty supply and demand which isn’t to be ignored.

Now, that doesn’t mean their in LOVE with the industry. Congressman from both sides have talked negatively about porn. When Hustler’s Larry Flynt asked for a bailout, he was given a swift “No,” (and I suspect then laughed out of the room.) Either way, porn isn’t tax exempt for the large part and since we haven’t even gotten into the Cam side of things yet, I’d say that porn is going to be free to grow and develop as an industry for a long time. As far as benefits go, the revenues of porn speak for themselves as do its creation of jobs and more. So keep jerking it people, porn loves you just as much as you love it.


Why BDSM Participants Have Better Mental Health . . .

by Andy Kay
June 8, 2013

Break out the whips, chains, and ball gags; a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine this year showed that people who involved themselves in BDSM (acronym for “bondage and discipline,” “dominance and submission,” and “sadism and masochism”) reported higher mental health than their more vanilla peers. Despite past views (and one can see how the false assumption could have been made), BDSM isn’t corrolated with abuse, rape, or mental disorders, past or present. People who take part in the BDSM community were found to be “less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships, and have better overall well-being. [1]

The psychologists who conducted the survey determined that “Kinkier” people showed to have better mental health because they are more aware and communicate better about their desires (sexual or not) and have figured out within themselves what their wants and needs are. Knowing that, they can more easily decipher their partner’s wants and needs and therefore avoid situations that might spawn poor self-esteem or awkward situations in the bedroom or elsewhere. People who fit in that category basically create a more mentally supportive and healthy environment in the bedroom and in their personal lives which is thanks to (in part) their participation and mental preparation for BDSM play. Fetish communities have argued for years that harmless sexual tastes should not considered mental problems or something to be ignored or feared, but rather incorporated into sexual education and discussion as something that can benefit relationships and personal mental health.


Now, that’s not to say that there isn’t a “dangerous” side to BDSM. Approximately 1/3 of Americans say they’ve had a sex related injury, 5% saying it was bad enough to miss work for at least one day. Many people won’t even realize that they’ve injured themselves until later, as sex raises one’s pain tolerance. To avoid these injuries, partners should first establish a safe word and then discuss what they’re comfortable and experienced with. If care is taken, BDSM can be a fun and beneficial experience for both partners [2]. Sex practices can be dangerous and people should always take precautions when experimenting with a new one, however people can get injured or die from a variety of activities. A diving death is not uncommon, nor is a rock climbing death. Even dying during sex isn’t uncommon after a certain age. Like those other activities, all that’s necessary is a little mental and physical preparation and new sexual practices can be helpful for everyone involved.


Let’s be honest, most of us have our kinky side and while most aren’t taking part in public whippings or building their own St. Andrew’s cross, a little biting or a feet feet of soft rope is something most of us can enjoy. If you’re worried about your mental health or relationship, it might be time to introduce some of that to the bedroom. You might be surprised at how you feel the following week. The concept makes sense too, logically. If you take time to open your mind to new things that are meant to take you out of your comfort zone and concurrently make those things more comfortable; its logical to think that that action is bound to help your mental health in some way.

For more info, check out this Youtube vid by a very sexy, scruffy man in a tank top:

Worried about starting your kinky journey to better mental health in real life? Not ready to break out the handcuffs quite yet? Check out our friend’s virtual world where you can head to the dungeon and take part in 3-D animated kinky action from the comfort of your computer chair:




Kyler Moss’s Foreskin Talents from the Raw 2 Parody by Boycrush Studios